How to Talk to Your Child

Implementation Notes

• Active Listening: It's important not only to hear but to understand the child's feelings and experiences. Use techniques like paraphrasing, clarifying, and reflecting emotions to show the child they are understood.
• I-Messages: Instead of accusations and criticism, use statements that describe your feelings and needs. This helps avoid conflict and promotes mutual understanding.
• Acknowledging Feelings: Recognize and accept the child's feelings, even if they seem insignificant or wrong to you. This helps the child feel understood and supported.
• Praise and Encouragement: Praise the child for specific actions and efforts, not general qualities. This helps build the child's confidence and motivation for further achievements.
• Setting Boundaries: Clearly and consistently establish rules and boundaries. Explain their necessity and the consequences of breaking them, so the child understands what is expected of them.
• Joint Problem Solving: Involve the child in the process of solving problems and making decisions. This helps develop their responsibility and independence.
• Empathy and Support: Show empathy and support in difficult situations. This helps the child feel protected and confident in your love and care.
• Avoiding Punishments: Try to avoid punishments that humiliate or frighten the child. Instead, use methods that help the child understand their mistakes and correct them.