The Five Wounds That Prevent You from Being Yourself

Key Concepts and Strategies

In «The Five Wounds That Prevent You from Being Yourself», Lise Bourbeau describes five main emotional wounds that form in childhood and affect a person's behavior and personality in adulthood. These wounds include: 1) The wound of rejection, which leads to the formation of the escapee mask. People with this wound tend to avoid conflicts and situations where they might be rejected. 2) The wound of abandonment, which forms the dependent mask. Such individuals often seek support and fear loneliness. 3) The wound of humiliation, which leads to the creation of the masochist mask. People with this wound tend to self-sacrifice and often prioritize others' needs over their own.
1.The wound of betrayal, which forms the controller mask. These individuals strive to control others and situations to avoid betrayal.
2.The wound of injustice, which leads to the formation of the rigid person mask. People with this wound often strive for perfection and can be overly critical. Strategies proposed by Bourbeau include recognizing one's wounds, accepting them, and gradually shedding the masks to become a more authentic and harmonious person.